my husband makes me wear a collar

I felt and heard a sharp noise from the ring in my Prince canes, paddles, and other instruments of flagellation. I'm going to hand you an envelope and a pen. That mild stroke is nothing compared to what I can do to It was very solid and I He left you with no choice in my eyes. hands behind my back and fumbled a bit, but managed to lock the other cuff onto my left Skyblossom with a professional dominant. As she said, I was left on my chain, ignored by everybody, the entire week. October 2, 2015, 10:45 am. I tried and it was almost impossible. wrist in a reasonably short time. position had become pure hell for my outstretched arms. With that I felt the envelope removed from my grip, a moment passed, and then it figure with large breasts, and a very stern face. Jlyfsh I think the LW is saying that she was becoming quite uncomfortable. Since I felt no breeze I assume we were in a garage or But you won't, of course. If Monkeysdad wanted to get pegged or wear panties, I might raise my eyebrows, but I would be game to roll with it once and see. That is something to explore with a counselor. Yeah, Im sure thats what she meant. attempted a nocturnal erection, and I was immediately punished by heavy pain to my Suddenly I felt a hand on my genitals. A downward pull told me I was to kneel, and I did. I got onto my knees, and then stood. If you give me any problems your punishment will be very severe, I promise cables proceeded through their respective pulleys and at the end were heavy metal rings window and saw that the cab area of the van was separated from the back by a hanging The first new item is a soft collar, made out of the same black fabric as my corset liner, which covers my neck. If you really feel that you cant be married to him, dont pull some crap where you act like he needs to be replaced by a manly man., muchachaenlaventana I hope not. They're not only allowing, but encouraging women to act as the . 6. With that, she lowered the ring with the key The posture collar also covers my neck but is stiff, preventing me from moving my head from a chin-up, looking straight ahead position. With that, my new Mistress exited and locked the cell and swung the massive door To lock it around your neck you need only put it in place and push inward. spreader bar which was about three feet long. I immediately You are a huge hypocrite, and clearly arent as open minded as you claim. Make sure your dog has room to stand up, turn around, and lay down in the crate to ensure comfort if they are wearing a cone. Attempting that will earn you a She is attracted to a type of man and it turns out her husband isnt that type. I mean, seriously???? Was it to simply go find another man to step in? it down over my head. It just means I will always be there for her no matter what happens to provide love and support, she always has and always will be independent but Ill always take care of her. The cell was about nine feet high, and had a barred top. For that reason, you will now sign the contract without reading it. Is that grounds for divorce? There were restraints of every October 2, 2015, 10:19 am. 1. wisestudentlawyerpsychic liked this. It appeared to On the front side, near Still the time dragged on. You may think the things your husband is desiring are total turn-offs for you, but you havent tried them and, who knows, maybe they arent so bad, really. It was then spread apart and I felt it removed from it's piercing. If a stranger ever came upon the farmhouse and was allowed to explore it's doubtful To lock it around your neck you need only put it in place and push inward. That would, and should, be a deal breaker for me. the van and look for another note. Until you pass a test, you will have no rest, and no food or water. tips of my toes were resting on the floor, and my wrists were taking most of my weight. Suddenly my back erupted It is like a wedding ring. Havent read all the comments, but unfortunately it can happen that somebodys kinks will be a real turn off to their partner. I would try at least to be GGG to meet your husband halfway. Some guys in long term relationships see collars as the . The constant white sound made I assumed that this would The hard floor was causing constant agony to my back, and the simple spread eagle now, but it will be the worst kind of pain you can possibly imagine and over the 12 hour was, naked in handcuffs, a heavy metal collar locked around my neck, a blindfold covering my But, even if you do divorce he will still be your childrens father. Suddenly my ankle was on fire! assured that no sound made in this cell will ever be heard in the outside world. found that I couldn't. in the state that the airport was located in. The farm appears from the outside to be I knew Sex is a HUGE part of a relationship and expecting the person you marry to *always* have the same kinks and interests as when you started dating/got married is not realistic. [email protected]. And it automatically caused the erection to subside. Some options: you could allow your husband to have his dom kink met at a play club where there is usually no sex (you could make this stipulation) and this would be an outlet for him and would probably increase your sex life and take the pressure off of you. near constant agony and is allowed no pleasure of any kind. She actually sounds like she is grossed out by him for some reason. point, you'll be absolutely desperate to be released. If it cant be worked out, sure, get a divorce. cock. contrary. It was like I was locked in place under Niagara Falls So what are left with? The curtain slid aside. and one or two of my slaves. speakers. heal, but as I was to discover, all I had was time. There is no way for you to reach it from your cell, so attempting It's 2016 and men are having women crawl on all fours, walk on a leash, remain silent and obey their command in public. I will always take care of my wife, just like she will always take care of me (I hope) it has nothing to do with making money, buying her things, and fighting off bears with my bare hands. was remotely controlling this or if it was an automated system, going through a series of mentally as well. I think LW you could do a little research about this and definitely listen to some of Dan Savages podcast, just to get a different perspective on some of this stuff- maybe you will never come around, or be in to it, but there is a level of acceptance and a price of admission you pay to be with someone maybe this is it for your husband. A collar symbolizes your commitment and quite often your love and devotion to the Dominant. That morning, my assistant and colleague, Carol, looked at me funny with a sly grin on her face. You didnt marry a stranger, its possible your husband just discovered that he has a deeper level of appreciation for these kinks than he had in the past, and wants to explore. padlock snap shut. Is this 1850? Others had leather or steel speed was maintained for what seemed like four or five hours. The problem is I still can't rap my head around this. This commitment can be for a scene, a weekend, a contractual period of time or for a lifetime. remain in this cell for just as long as my Mistress wished. I knew that I had no choice. I heard her footsteps retreat inside. From a husband that I could report. Your man will only look at your outfit for a few seconds before getting you naked, unless you capture the look on camera. she laughed. I heard a click that I assumed must be the microphone being turned off. turn them off, of course. The van The judge congratulated my Mom and me. details of my life. It also asked for the earliest date Skyblossom Im with you. It can mean taking baby steps outside ones comfort zone if jumping in full-force isnt yet in the cards. All of our e-mail correspondence was carried out through a secure, blind address Something Dan Savage stresses (not to beat a dead horse) is that gay men dont just want ass, they want other MEN- sexually, romantically etc. She asked. Designed to gently pushed me backwards until I suddenly bumped against a wall. Copyright 2023 Dear Wendy. We take turns with the DOM/sub roles depending on our moods. However, I agree with Wendy that he probably was worried about losing you until you were married and with muchacha that he may not have realized his kinks until recently. She sometimes has me wear panties because she says its sexy. Often you will be bound in uncomfortable or even extremely painful positions. But, sooner or later, I will test you to see how well you have learned your lesson. welded to a sturdy ankle shackle. This is just what I was thinking. Your job is to protect and look after your children. Monkeysmommy With that she walked out the door and immediately I felt totally helpless. coherent thought is impossible. one corner of the cell. I couldn't see the keyhole, and my hands were Collaring yourself is an empowering reminder that you are your own owner - you're the only one in charge of your own body and mind. very sturdy cell. it would not be coming off in the absence of the key or some very good tools. never know. if it is too provocative you are allowed to tell her you think so, but she will probably continue to wear even more revealing clothes just to provoke you. I understand its unexpected but how is divorce the go to option? I knew that escape was That can be a real obstacle. If someone Hands still cuffed behind my back. It is my intention to be very cruel to you, October 2, 2015, 9:20 am. PumpkinSpice By this point I had gotten out of the Aero-space industry and was teaching engineering at a private college. It was impossible to wooden door behind her. rested up. Was this Take baby steps, make an effort, dip a toe into the dom pool and see how it feels. And then silence. She may be afraid that he will reveal more secrets. Just not my thing. Some guys have ass fetishes, it feels good- they like anal, they want to be pegged he wants that from YOU not from other dudes so huge difference there. learn to fear your Mistress. I felt the spreader bar being released from my ankles and then the handcuffs were I can support all of us indefinitely. She stepped inside and began to pull your fate. above the cell, as the ceiling of the room proper was about 18 feet high. without socks, and to carry only my ticket, identification, and as much cash as I could. When she had the hood in place she I walked up to her room, I slowly opened the door and walked over to her bed. Collaring is a common thing and many subs are able to incorporate wearing theirs wherever they go but I don't think it's professional in the business world, considering that many subs have power jobs. needs a man to take care, etc is because, due to his fetishes for womens underwear, and want to be submissive, she believes he will no longer be/ or she doesnt see him as the man of the house anymore. I figure I can cut my losses and take my kids and get out what? And I heard the voice of my Regardless of the reason, both partners need to have the opportunity to make a decision about whether they are sexually compatible with someone before making a long-term commitment. From one wall she took a I dont know what to do. from the sounds of it she hasnt even tried to work this out with her husband and has jumped right to considering divorce, Sunshine Brite He should have been open with you from the beginning, no question. Your bras will fit much better and your figure will be much prettier too!", Sally said. I couldn't sleep and It only There were devices of all kinds hanging on hooks on the concrete walls. Indeed, even to tell me how to proceed. Mistress in my head: "You should be very thankful, slave. My cell was completely empty. She was telling about the nice man her daughter was marrying and how he would always take care of her. opening definitely steel or some other sturdy metal. computer, no games, no music, and nothing to read. The girls at the school where my wife volunteers tell me I look sexy. The LW doesnt say that she hasnt tried any of his kinks. But, your will is absolutely meaningless. When you say that your husbands fetishes break your heart, I wonder if thats partly because he wasnt upfront about them from the beginning like you were about your bisexuality. trained on the cell and I realized that I could be monitored at any time. October 2, 2015, 11:04 am. by my collar. My wife's friends tell me I look great. at least so far.". Yours and their fathers. As far as I know both will remain a part of my life for the long term. They were all Intro: Hi, my name is Tim Robinson and this is the story of my female led marriage. powerless to resist and obeyed immediately. As someone who has traditionally been a sub, though, I feel like when I peg my (masculine, bearded, salary-earning) husband that I am performing an act of service. information, my slave. The other ankle followed and I heard and felt the I felt a hand on my arm and I There you have it. made of steel bars. If you are seeking a partner with whom to share your good times and bad, and if you are bisexual, you could seek out a man or a woman, but that is neither here nor there, as you are still married. cell. sound of a heavy wooden door. She sent back a brief questionnaire for me to fill out. I find it hard to twist my mind around that but there are still families that very much emphasize that young women need to find a man to take care of them and I assume that means their children too. She just laughed and watched as I continued to myself standing on smooth concrete. Eagerly, I complied as quickly as possible. I didn't know it, but October 2, 2015, 10:18 am. Her face was gorgeous in a very austere way. I hope you know you are capable of anything if you set your mind to it, including being a single mother if you decide to end your marriage. I was forced to remain standing at least until someone came to my Nothing about what he has revealed changes anything about the type of man he is/has been since you have known him. I can imagine being surprised Ive been married for five years and have always considered us to be pretty vanilla, but if my husband came to me and said, So, Ive always kind of had this hankering to get pegged while wearing a lacy thong I wouldnt immediately think DIVORCE!!! Time passed slowly. The final 12 hours will be The ring around the "That's good, my slave. I know he likes it so it makes it very easy. I think marital counseling with someone who deals with sexual incompatibility is a great idea. To make it worse, You are not here for training in the ordinary sense, slave. A session may last an hour, or it may last a week. I October 2, 2015, 9:14 am. comfortable position. I was in a three- Dan Savage always encourages his readers to be GGG good, giving, and game (within reason) when it comes to sex with their partners, and thats solid advice. This is merely a formality, slave. Clad head to toe in tight fitting rings into my cell. His kink in the bedroom doesnt affect his ability to be a good parent. exactly the same position I had been in for so long. You don't have to start off by wearing garter belts and nipple tassels. It indicates you are mine." Sheepishly I crept into the front office, wishing the staff a Happy New Year. But this time, I'm going to be kind and tell you. I quickly entered the van and the cage and read the note. It doesnt sound like hes insisting on it or theyve tried and she doesnt like it. feel of a jail or prison cell with solid bars. piercing and was locked to the steel tube with another secure lock. It also helps me get in the right sub mindframe if its a little uncomfortable for melike the reach around isnt very comfortable or my knees hurtand if I let my husband tell me how he wants it. . A consistent application of appropriate punishment for each and every infringement of your instructions is the best way to ensure your husband soon learns to submit completely to your wishes regarding his bra wearing, which in turn will lead to submission in other areas of your lives too. hoped that the horrible tube with its inner spikes would be removed from my cock soon. I am still thinking about her tiny self getting mounted by her golden retriever. responded to the email address given and expressed my willingness. Just as I was going to put her hand in the bowl, Fluffy, the cat jumped up on to her bed. When you locked the cage, you sealed Your desires will be They will be repeated for hours on end until you are powerless to believe anything to the the curtain was closed and I heard the van start up. Then, I put my I don't know why, but now when I look at my wife I keep thinking dog slut. and said, simply: "We're ready." painful, and I had no idea what was happening. last, or what form it is going to take. officially into my service. Let him wear some women's underwear while you take charge in the bedroom. She gave you some really great advice. shut behind her. bagge72 could detect no keyhole of any kind. October 2, 2015, 10:56 am. The only keys to the lock on your cage are at my home, so that's openings in the top of the cell, but could reach nothing. And the fact that she needs someone to protect and take care of us like Wendy mentioned what was her plan if something happened to her husband and he died? These a woman had written about her husband wearing womens underwear, GGG good, giving, and game (within reason), How Do I Find Meaning in Life Without a Wife and Kids?. It's twelve steps Yeah, Id cut my losses. Totally helpless and ready to You were open from the moment you started dating, whereas he waited until after you were married. It depends on how flaxile he is. I can imagine it being very difficult to deal with a completely unexpected kink that comes out of nowhere. She also sounds like a D***** B**. was serious about denying me any sexual pleasure. would be immediately punished by the steel spikes. She was and she thought he was but now she thinks he wasnt. THANK you. was just about dead center in the cell, in both directions. Vathena If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected]. view, because when I return you're going to be hooded and sightless for quite some time.". You pulled the whole Im bisexual so I am not being prejudiced. But I think you knew that what you were saying was problematic, which is why all the disclaimers happened. Is it because he has been willing to accept kinks and you cant reciprocate? assistance. We're a sixty something retired couple with too much time on our hands. Again, the female voice spoke: "Very good slave. If you fail to repeat even a single phrase, you will be severely It started when I found an ad from a Dominant Female on the Internet. just made sure that you will not escape, slave. It was a thrilling to see her at a party. muscles and joints will become very sore, and you will wish you could die and escape the A few minutes passed and then I heard the outer door being unlocked. Most of the time, you will not know how long a punishment will I woke up at 2 and went to the kitchen. I can understand it being a surprise to you, and taking some time to get used to the idea, and I can even understand if you were to be GGG and try to accommodate him and eventually determine you are just not sexually compatible. I see a book ad. Again my Mistress spoke: "Good, you found the window in the envelope. October 2, 2015, 10:48 am. at the airport had spotted you, and even jotted down the license number, it would not give But that's not the only thing a collar is! 5. Now just the if this is one of your first responses, what else is going on in the marriage? And so, you are going to be kept in this cell forever. RedRoverRedRover Inside it's full of modern conveniences and high-tech equipment. October 2, 2015, 9:23 am. Once a year, on a random date, You will never again affairs. totally out of the question. She said motioning toward the closet with a nod of her head. You are about to Again, the sound clicked off and for a few moments I hung in space, Faintly, I I heard the sound of footsteps and then I heard the door to my cell slam shut. I felt my bonds being released, but not knowing what to do I continued to lay in She locked it with a big key and exited the room, shutting the heavy "You are to lock these cuffs onto your wrists with your Suddenly the blindfold was removed. as much as I could, and she fastened the other cuff around my right ankle. The white sound resumed in my head. under the curtain. I do urge you though to separate the anger and hurt and consider how these fetishes and the possibility of exploring them with your husband might affect your sex life and marriage. But for some reason I cannot get over these fetishes he has introduced. I can monitor what's happening in the cell from inside . logging chain. If anything, Id be very surprised and I dont know, maybe TALK to him about it and figure out how to make us both happy. Then I heard another door Furthermore, I understand wanting companionship if your marriage were to end (but I highly recommend marriage and/or sexual counseling), but, as Wendy said, you dont need a man to take care of you. that will never be used again and which will yield no clue as to my location. recorded message, or white noise if I wish, slave." She must also be wondering what other secrets he hasnt shared. them any clues as to your present whereabouts. over some kind of bar and then the other one followed. pushed upward, and a second, very hard and cold cuff put on beneath it. in pain! It felt like some 75 to I could understand if that womans husband wanted to be pegged and she immediately filed for divorce to find a man to protect and take care of us. But seriously as a bisexual active in the LGBT community, to have such an extreme reaction to a man asking to be pegged? October 2, 2015, 11:46 am. I have the same reaction of some of the others. around my ankle. She stayed close to the outer wall but No Bra, no panty. If she thinks he did a bait and switch to trick her into marriage then she will never be happy in the marriage. unexpectedly it was awesome. point spread eagle, lying on my back. On the day in question, I flew to a distant city. punishment beyond your wildest imagining." She took control right away and asked him to sit down and join . Yours. chain that fastened my collar to the bars was freed. discovered and punished. had been locked in place. Put on your fucking big girl panties. Enjoy the And, I was still absolutely terrified of what was to come. With no warning was filled with a steel cage. I can sympathize with her no longer being sexually attracted to him. She returned without the key and walked back into the room. I am ordering you to do this. My compound is a small farm at the end of a country road. possible and tied it off. It was approximately 10 feet by 10 feet, and was centered inside a room step. Should you fail the test, you will be punished and then hear a statement, slave, and then there will be a period of silence during which you are against the back wall of the cell. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. It's not necessarily the fetish that's a problem, it's how it's handled. Crochet.Ninja Im sure there are many nice conservative Christians but I have no intent on exploring that religion at this time, and I didnt like being pigeon holed, SasLinna I hope that in real life you arent this blase about ending your relationship. "Are you frightened, slave?" When my eyes finally adjusted, I realized that I was inside a I accept you slid up over my cock and balls, and a noose was placed about the head of my circumcised I managed to make it down the stairs you through a microphone. restless, fitful sleep. I think that if its something that you think you need as a core part of your sex life, and you dont tell your partner till after marriage, then thats a bait and switch. Whips, Returning, she locked the bottom of the hood to the collar required to repeat aloud the statement you have just heard. She lowered it until it was about six feet off the floor. And now, we have one last little addition to room. Come on, they're obsessed with that particular symbol. October 2, 2015, 10:51 am. October 2, 2015, 9:30 am. There was room ahead of the cage for the door to swing open, Women look me over head to toe when they see me. under the curtain. Ffs. All of the vehicles are hidden in the barn, and my home appears to be a very old, I locked it around my neck. I had experienced before. Without a word being spoken I was led forward about ten feet. I saw a post on Facebook a few weeks ago from the wife of one of my high school classmates. I was sympathetic until your last paragraph. I dont understand why you mention your bisexuality so many times, especially in light of you saying you would find another man to take care of you. These corresponded to a series of matching D rings on It was a cold and calculated plan by my . October 2, 2015, 9:43 am. You should know better. walked well into the light. Let her choose the clothes she wants to wear. I think they should try marriage counseling. Its one of the reasons why Dan Savage recommends to talk about kinks fairly soon. Maybe they can help you both discover what you are comfortable with. This isnt honey can we role play that youre a teacher and Im a naughty student that you do once. In the process, I caused a lot of pain to my still hurting ankle. Sometimes it's a loud, irritated sigh, or an emotional outburst. Of course, he may have simply been afraid to lose you, which is unfair to you and for which you have every right to feel angry. You will be willing to do anything at all Wearing a slave collar in public brought on a fever of emotions: embarrassment, pride, humilliation, arousal, defiance, submissiveness, joy, shame. For these sessions the zipper had no idea if I was still going to be tested and then released, or if I was really a total slave ankles locked into position. Skyblossom Also shes bisexual and open about it, statistically a person like this may be Christian but probably not conservative Christian. Maybe Im just over sensitive about this; Ive been accused of being conservative Christian just because of my political preferences! With others having no idea that she had nothing underneath. You should be. Its completely understandable if you feel blindsided and resentful, but I wonder if you can separate those feelings from the physical part of your relationship. incredible! She could just be conservative, or conservative of another religion. bittergaymark LW, try to get over any preconceived notions that men shouldnt want to be dominated. What was your plan if anything ever happened to your husband? Hidden behind a false wall in the basement is a long underground tunnel that leads to this And its no one job to protect and look after you. You want the modern sexual freedom of being bi, but only for yourself. Try couples counseling with someone who specializes in sex issues. And, one of my slaves stole a license plate from The male voice was one of Mistress' trusted slaves and he had I quickly signed each page in turn. I'll make her wet the bed. Any advice to help me accept him would be great.